The right focus

Recently I was disturbed by the natural phenomenon of a dog going bonkers over a bitch in heat. His one track mind registered only one fact, even refusing food and drink. In fact, it set me thinking that if we learn to stay focused on any one thing, everything else ceases to matter. Perserverance is needed to overcome the distractions of the body which deflect the mind from its chosen path of action. Some times one is distracted unknowingly so that the long term goal becomes hazy and short term benefits appear attractive. One needs to be constantly alert to avoid losing sight of what one has set out to accomplish.

marriage

Marriage contains the word mirage. Is it a mirage or do we make it by our rose tinted spectacles, by our expectations and desires ? When reality hits, disappointments follow and some times the entire personality is shaken to the core. Is there a reality check or should one walk in without any preparation? Marry in haste, repent at leisure, the old adage holds true for all time. Only when one is ready should one marry, not before.

marriage

BLAMING OTHERS

It is easy to blame others for our mistakes. We go over our mistakes and on trying to pinpoint the source, we invariably find that someone else is the cause of our problems! But why are we unable to admit our folly ? Why do we find it difficult to admit our fauxpas ? Leave alone open admittance even within our own self we never accept that we are at fault. Unless we do so we cannot possibly overcome our faulty behaviour or attitude. Change from within is possible only in acknowledging , yes, that was my mistake. If this is not done we keep repeating our mistakes over and over again.

Today I met my cousin who's just come from Sydney and she told me about the varying life styles of people over there and here in India. As the cultures vary customs and attitudes are markedly different, beginning with children leaving homes at eighteen, setting up their own households, working to maintain it and saving for a university education. Parents, too, encourage them to leave and be independant. India is vastly different, with parents willing to sacrifice but determined to extract their pound of flesh when their children are settled in life. It's difficult to decide what is right or better for the parents and children both. It's a matter of understanding the concept of duty, where it begins and where it ends.
The ideal is of course to perform duty with love and without expectation. The moment we do this, we become bound to the law of return from nature which is the best form of return.

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Trying times

Trying times basically means difficult times. But to pun on the word trying , we have a vast range of connotations from trying out different remedies for various problems, to experimenting with challenges that life flings at us to see whether we are up to the mark or debunk our problems under the carpet i.e out of sight, out of mind.
Trying times can also mean making efforts to understand the changing time and adjusting accordingly. As the status quo shifts, trying times emerge and one should be thankful for then one never grows old. The secret of not letting changing times affect you is not to get used to the status quo.